50 is the new 30! Seeing this bevy of women, we can safely say that without putting a spin on aging, age is just a number. There’s also something special about the number 50; it represents the expression of freedom with an abundance of confidence, appreciating good things and having a healthy lifestyle.
There is a lot of youthfulness in the expressions of these women. Their desire to embrace what they love and change what they don’t has never been so high for them. As they turn 50, they are on a new threshold that has opened them to new horizons.
AZUKA OGUJIUBA had a riverting encounter with these beautiful women, Kate Henshaw, Karen Koshoni, Chioma Ude and Oona Priddy on how they feel turning fifty, especially looking as good as they do where they can pass for women at least a decade younger!
They are not only aging gracefully, they are a reminder that you can be 50 without fear of aging because of the lifestyle they live. Their bodies and figures is a reflection of their discipline and healthy living when it comes to their bodies. They put some younger women to shame as they can wear literally anything and definitely get second glances anywhere they go. They are not afraid to push the envelope within reason and do not need to go overboard to show their sex appeal. They have it nailed down to their fingertips reeking with inner confidence which makes them even more alluring and appealing to the eye. Calling them arm-candies does not do them justice. They are way more than that. These are women who command attention effortlessly! And to be able to do that at 50, is no small feat and should be greatly admired.
At 50, these women have continued to lead by example and expand their horizons on the upliftment of womanhood and are an inspiration to younger ladies.
What things have you learnt about turning 50 that you probably didn’t think much about when you were 40?
Things I have learnt is that being yourself is imperative. Living life to the fullest is non-negotiable.
Everyone usually has a bucket list. What boxes are you yet to tick so far?
The boxes I am yet to tick are being an air hostess even if for a day, (laughter) and running a full marathon.
They say with age come maturity and some level of boldness. What key things matter most to you now that didn’t hold such importance a few decades back?
The key things that matter most now are continuing to dedicate myself to causes I am passionate about, contributing positively to the Nigeria of my dreams.
You look very good for your age and could easily pass for 40. No doubt, older men as well as younger men are bound to admire you. Have you been approached by younger men and if so, would you ever consider dating someone 5-10 years younger?
Yes, I have been approached by younger men. Yes I would consider it especially if the mind is mature and God is the source.
If you were to advice younger women who look up to you, how best will you advice them about being in a good place?
Advice to younger women will be not to be pressured to be what they are not or live a lifestyle they cannot afford nor maintain. Use your youth judiciously.
You’re always glowing and happy which is an empirical evidence that certain things are going well for you. Where do you draw your strength and happiness from?
My strength and happiness from my Creator. From my daughter, from my family. I have gone through a lot but it didn’t break me. I am still standing and that alone,gladdens me always.
Some people think you’re a temperamental person when they see you through your roles in movies, especially when you tend to interchange being mean and soft so perfectly. Would you say these roles are somewhat a reflection of your real personality?
I am not a mean nor temperamental person. My roles in movies are different from Kate. I do however get irritated when people don’t do the right things.
It’s a well-known fact that you studied microbiology. What then, influenced you to pursue a career as an actor? Any regrets choosing acting instead of a career in the medical field?
I was inquisitive. Invited by the late JT Tom West. Attended an audition and here I am today. No regrets whatsoever.
How do you mitigate disagreements between yourself and directors or with other actors on set?
Respect is one thing I hold dearly. Respect for experience, skill and colleagues. Mostly dealing with people in a manner that is not offensive.
Describe your most challenging role till date?
There are two; Eringa in Stronger Than Pain. Inspector Folashade in the Ghost and The House of Truth. Both won me awards both locally and internationally.
As an actor, between “Talent” and “Training”, which do you believe is most needed to succeed in the movie industry?
Training. You get to learn, relearn, hone your craft and skill.
What is your secret in perfecting your movie roles? Your versatility is often remarkable, in some movies where you’re the victim, you cry, in movies where you’re the victor, you’re mean. In all, you blend perfectly, how do you achieve that?
By watching other actors both local and international. I also believe that mine is a gift from God which I owe to myself to keep the fire burning.
What is the hardest decision you have had to make in life?
Getting a divorce.
You have an advocate against sexual and domestic violence, if you were the president of Nigeria what will be your judicial decision on such offenders ?
My judicial decision on sexual and domestic violence would be a life sentence or castration. We need tougher penalties to end the scourge.
If you were to start a charity organization or an NGO , what will it focus on and why ?
If I were to start an NGO, it will focus on Women and Children. They always get the short end of the stick and are regarded less than human in most societies.
You are 50 now, are you in a relationship and finally is your door still open to romance and marriage?
Not in a relationship and yes my door remains open to especially romance.
What things have you learnt about turning 50 that you probably didn’t think much about when you were 40?
A certain consciousness of who I am, what do I stand for and what am I giving back to society and what’s the legacy I intend to leave behind, 40’s for me was very much about establishing myself, business and finding my footing as an independent woman etc. Now, in my 50’s I’m more aware of what I can represent as a person.
Everyone usually has a bucket list. What boxes are you yet to tick so far?
Travelling to a destination island alone for one week with a few good books, facing the sea and allowing my mind to be free. Give back by building a shelter for women and children who are struggling, usually single or widowed
They say with age come maturity and some level of boldness. What key things matter most to you now that didn’t hold such importance a few decades back?
The positive impact or influence I can have on people, and the importance of being part of something that gives back. Being present for people and being at peace (most crucial now).
You look very good for your age and could easily pass for 40. No doubt, older men as well as younger men are bound to admire you. Have you been approached by younger men and if so, would you ever consider dating someone 5-10 years younger?
I do get approached by much younger men, but I haven’t been attracted actually let me correct that, drawn to younger men, I think the maximum I could do would be a gentleman three years younger than me.
If you were to advice younger women who look up to you, how best will you advice them about being in a good place?
Number one advice, Do you. Don’t look at what anyone has, or require validation to be who you are. Saying that, get involved with groups and platforms that encourage, help and drive your ambition to build your confidence and skills. Keep good friends that will stand with you no matter what, support you and encourage you. Last but not the least, mind your business and be quiet.
People barely conceal their delight when they see your works, with a trademark of beauty and elegance. How do you intend to revolutionize the face of interior decoration in the country with the elegant and beautiful designs that you churn out?
Thank you for the kind words, I think the foremost goal of Urban Living is giving quality well made furniture at a good price point so our Nigerian clientele can rest assure that well designed furniture can be made here in Nigeria. Affordability is key.
You have a long list of reputable establishments as your client, how do you get them to believe so much in you and what your establishment stands for?
I work at understanding the needs of the client and being able to interpret their needs and the design aesthetics they want to achieve, I’m also very patient with clients and never want them to feel under pressure, it’s a process that must be made enjoyable or comfortable for the client whether it’s a corporation or a private home. Urban Living stands for Quality, Design & Excellent Finish
You are a mother of four lovely daughters, how are you able to able to combine your role as a C.E.O of Urban Living and a mother knowing how much your daughters look to you for guidance, advice and direction in the world?
It’s definitely not an easy task, as a woman, you have to work doubly hard to make your mark, so a lot of time is spent working, but I have made sure I’m always there for my girls. I’m disciplined as a mother but I’m also a friend to each one, I encourage them to talk about anything with me (as much as they would allow). We do a lot of things together, holidays, eating out. Interacting with your children is important. People who know me, know how close I am to my girls and how fiercely protective I am of them. I will drop any and everything for them and they know this. My daughters are my no one priority.
You attended Queens College Yaba and it is on record that you’re a decent and devoted alumnus of the college, precisely of the1988 set. Would you say there are remarkable principles you learnt while at Queens College and how well has it helped shape your perspective thus far?
Such an honour to have attended Queens College Yaba, Lagos. It shaped me in many ways, it instilled strong values that have shaped by mindset, one being excellence, striving to be good at whatever I do, discipline and grace, to carry oneself with grace and confidence. Queens College definitely instilled a sense of self worth in us.
As a member of the Interior Design Association of Nigeria (IDAN), what would you say has been the major role of the organization to the growth of interior decoration in the country?
IDAN has definitely given accreditation to the industry in Nigeria, the confidence to work to principled guidelines and value to the work we do as Architects, Interior designers, interior decorators, manufacturers and artisans. It has definitely put Nigeria on the global platform, the current President of IFI, which is the international federation of interior Architects/Designers is our very own Titi Ogunfere.
As a reputable interior decorator, when you’re invited to an empty room and given the task to decorate the room, what inspires your creativity?
I’m always first inspired by a client’s personality , which can range from colourful, bohemian, glamourous to a variety of different personalities, as well as being influenced by the design and style of the property and the surroundings.
Without a doubt, interior decoration is teamwork oriented because you need the services of interior architects and cabinetry craftsmen, how do you balance the conflicting views and opinions of your team mates to get the best output?
This here is the core of interior work especially if it involves renovations, ensuring everyone is on the same page from inception to production and delivery/installation, it involves a lot of detailed meetings and supervision, getting everyone’s opinion and suggestions, interior work is not about dictation but cooperation of everyone to understand the vision and design, I tell my work team, always ask questions never assume, it’s the only way we learn, and every project is a learning curve to gain something new.
You have participated in several life changing projects through your church and also privately, what motivated you to do so?
Upbringing I would say is probably my first influence to want to make a difference in society and peoples lives. My Parents and Mother most especially, were always looking for ways to help people. Also, being a dedicated follower of Christ, the church I attend is an outreach church, we are taught to love and have compassion for people and your community. My church has definitely had a great influence and is a big source of encouragement to make that difference.
You also support the liberation of women with numerous support packages and Leadership development skills, what is your drive to do these things?
After going through a divorce, there was certainly a need to gain a stronger foothold on being financially independent and secure, as well as the realization that we live in a male dominated society and women need all the help and support that can be offered to get up the ladder. A simple act of just talking and understanding, encouraging and supporting businesses, introducing, recommending etc, in some cases helping out financially, goes a long way. I don’t think there’s enough support out there for women in particular, I try and encourage some of the ladies I mentor through church to get on skill acquisition courses. Nigeria can be a very tough terrain for anyone most especially women. It’s important to have a goal, be persistent, focused, persevere, and work hard at giving excellence. We must remember complacency kills, let’s strive to be the Proverbs 31 woman.
You are 50 now, are you in a relationship and finally is your door still open to romance and marriage?
I’m definitely open to romance, courtship and marriage, it’s a blessing to be part of genuine love and make a difference in someone’s life. Although I must say, it’s an area that I tread very carefully, as I don’t want anything to jeopardize my children and I emotional stability. All in all, I’m happily and comfortably single. If the right person comes along, great, if not, great all the same.
What things have you learnt about turning 50 that you probably didn’t think much about when you were 40?
One of the amazing things about turning 50 is that you can leave many cares and worries behind and embrace life. Of course, new problems and ailments are bound to come your way, but that is the case no matter what your age. A person at age 50 can create better health habits and become even healthier than earlier in life. So to me it wasn’t so much about learning, it was a about taking conscious decision of letting certain things go and deciding to guard my space on who I let into my inner circle. It is imperative that you take extra effort to master a new discipline in maintaining and enhancing your overall cognitive health. Turning 50 means positive energy and loads of laughter.
Everyone usually has a bucket list. What boxes are you yet to tick so far?
My boxes to tick have always been about Impact, Impact and Impact. Over the years, I have trained a lot of young people through the AFRIFF training program. Now I want to take on mentorship. I want to train a lot of young women to great status who will in turn, train other young women. That way, we multiply the success and global achievement rates of women not just in Nigeria but in all of Africa. The AFRIFF Academy platform is still open and still training all over Africa despite the pandemic and before the end of this year, I will launch an online platform where young women can apply for mentorship with emphasis on Technology based jobs, gaming/animation and African global Cinema.
They say with age come maturity and some level of boldness. What key things matter most to you now that didn’t hold such importance a few decades back?
Turning 50 is a big deal, a major milestone. Of course, all birthdays with a zero on the end are significant as they mark entry into a new decade of your life but somehow 50 represents for me, wisdom freedom and stardom. What matters to me now always mattered to me before now I have always been one with big ideas and vision. They just amplified at 50 all in the area of training so I ramped up the numbers for training in the creative industry and technology while creating avenues for entrepreneurship and few absorbed into the work force. I must say this was done in conjunction with Mr Gbenga Obadina who with his technology background and expertise, infused the right strategy to make it all happen
You look very good for your age and could easily pass for 40. No doubt, older men as well as younger men are bound to admire you. Have you been approached by younger men and if so, would you ever consider dating someone 5-10 years younger?
Naturally I have been approached by younger men. Would I consider dating a younger dude
I have never given this a thought. The age difference is not the significant issue for me. What really matters is one’s outlook on life and how it aligns with mine, respect, maturity and lastly how do we love each other?
If you were to advice younger women who look up to you, how best will you advice them about being in a good place?
First, Don’t let fear stop you from trying new opportunities, and never think, ‘I can’t do that because I’m a woman’. You will discover there are no limits to what is possible for you in life.
Secondly, Never be done with learning. Be a lifelong learner and while you are at it, set a balance between your street and emotional intelligence, trust your instincts.
You can’t choose your family, with friends and associates you have a choice. Please be selective, surround yourself with positive people. Spend your time with people who raise you up, not bring you down. Save money. Then save some more. Be as independent as you can financially, ultimately it isn’t about what others think or how many expectations of ‘success’ you’ve ticked off your list, it’s about how you feel about you and your journey.
You have been tagged the First Lady of African media as a result of your progressive and steady rise in the media space. Does that mean the journey has been free of challenges? If there have been any, how did you overcome them?
I mostly overcome my challenges with doggedness when I bite I don’t let go till it comes to fruition. I usually identify potential obstacles. So I start by determining exactly what’s standing between me and my goal, educate myself and learn all I can about the challenges ahead of me. There are a million strategies I can put on the table but the truth is that my journey has been divine. God has always sent me an angel in all my times of need and despair! I promise you that’s the story of my life. So, I worry less now about how problems will be solved, I celebrate big and small victories and surround myself with a great team while focusing on the next big exploration.
F.Y.I. I am one of the most positive people you would ever meet in your life .
Over the years in your career, you have had to partner with several professionals and organizations of high repute. How then do you balance the conflicting views of your teammates and partners to suit your purpose?
The views have really not been overtly conflicting. We have had great partners I must say. My teammates on the other hand, have had conflicting opinions and they gang up against me every now and then.
What I have always done over the years to strike a balance, is create a welcoming environment for open communication, no matter what the conflict is, there is always room for a compromise. The issue has always been about who will lead the compromise, who will play the maturity card? It is also imperative to maintain a calm and respectful demeanor during heated conversations that arise from conflicting opinions. I carefully watch out for arguments that stem from a need for control. Find some middle-ground, agree to disagree and choose your battles. It is not compulsory that one person must win and dominate the others, we saw a lot of goodwill at the recently concluded Olympics in Japan, so many people were willing to share the Gold and Silver medal. The bible says one can chase a thousand but two can chase ten thousand. Imagine what we can do when we speak as one, gosh the possibilities!
As the founder, Africa international film festival (AFRIFF), would you say the festival has played any role in changing the narrative in film making as long as Africa is concerned?
1000000%. Where do I start? AFRIFF is a world class showcase that presents a complete immersion into the world of film making with participation from local and international filmmakers and professionals, celebrities, actors, directors, film critics, buyers, distributors, visual artists, film students, amateurs, equipment manufacturers, and international press.
Over the years, the Nigeria film practitioners has been a big benefactor to the great programs that AFRIFF offers. Considering the fact that the Festival always held in Nigeria; African film practitioners benefit more from local and International masterclasses, first hand film exhibition of local film, networking with International film makers, opportunities for international distribution; in a nutshell, Nollywood and Africa takes up 80% participation and all access to most of its other festival activities. The festival exists for Africa Film practitioners to network with practitioners from all over the world . To broker distribution deals after the film has been screened in front of acquisition executives, talent scouts and to win awards; to sit on panels at workshops or seminars with the purpose of sharing ideas and experiences while getting honest feedbacks and criticisms; to cultivate new business relationships; and for the film lovers visiting and in state to enjoy the multitude screenings curated by a superb team. At AFRIFF there is always something for everyone.
The Africa international film festival (AFRIFF) has within its scope, free training in various skills that enhance effective and efficient film making, is there any provision for those who graduate from the academy to practice in the movie industry in Nigeria?
This happens 100% of the time. In the last few years, AFRIFF has offered training to young and up coming filmakers and also established practitioners in numbers running into 5000+ and has sponsored over 100+ Nigerian students and practitioners to film schools in Europe Africa and the United states. Some of those students have become great filmmakers and are back home creating box office grosses reinforcing their importance while telling the Nollywood narrative through great pictures and creative writing. I believe we have the most effective training program which is taking people into dignified jobs in our training program. It speaks for itself.
You have partnered with so many organizations, agencies and people-Access Bank . Multichoice, American Mission. Cisco, Japanese embassy, Envivo communication and so many more. How would you size up working with them and how were you able to make them believe in your dreams?
Consistency and always striving for excellence, never miss-appropriating funds for the festival and our passion for training at NO COST TO THE STUDENTS built us our credibility. We the team, made sure we built a brand of excellence for our industry on the continent so getting buy-ins from other companies became very easy.
How are you able to balance the demands of your family life with your numerous official responsibilities and still come out excellent?
With so many demands on my time, it’s hard to be everything to everyone. Most times, I juggle a number of roles and goals in my life. The thing is you want to be successful at work, enjoy a healthy couple relationship, be an involved parent. You may have goals of furthering your education, maintaining a home, contributing to your community, keeping to a fitness regimen, saving for early retirement. Further, you may be juggling extended family issues, like caring for aging parents or dealing with an illness in the family. All of these things take your time and energy and often run into conflict with each other. As there are only 24 hours in a day, you may have to think about your values and set some priorities based on those values. Being an involved parent is a priority for me. I strived in building a support system around the kids and myself from love respect and firmness; we succeeded.
What legacy do you want to leave behind; what you would like to be remembered for?
I would love to be remembered for being a great impact to many generations. To be seen as someone who truly made a difference. To be a significant innovator in the creative industry.
Most of all, I would love to be remembered as that person who always carried around some amount of sunshine to brighten the day. It’s a cold world out there.
Would you agree with the notion that Nollywood from all conceivable standpoints has grown to match up with other international movie industries like Hollywood comparatively?
NO not at all, but I would say we are intentionally and strategically headed there. The Nigerian Film Industry (Nollywood) is globally recognized as the second largest film producer in the world. Now we are building the African Global cinema, a platform where the African stories and filmmaking can match the best of the rest of the world We are getting there gradually. Watch this space.
You have a degree in marketing from the University of Nsukka. How then did you venture into the media sphere. Given the opportunity, would you do certain things differently?
Media has always been my passion and so I found it. I am incredibly fulfilled and grateful. Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present for a loved one and not giving it.
No one who achieves success does so without acknowledging the help of others. God has been good to me and has brought great people (earthly angels) and opportunities my way. Everything that has happened to me has been orchestrated by God. Who am I to want it any differently?
You are 50 are you in a relationship and finally, is your door open to romance and marriage?
Yes I am in a committed relationship
Instinctively my answer for marriage will be “been there done that” but hey…
What things have you learnt about turning 50 that you probably didn’t think much about when you were 40?
Turning 50 was much easier for me than turning 40. It is a chance to revaluate your life and your past and let go. An opportunity to move on and not be limited by our minds. To be more positive and grateful for what you have. To have the courage to say ‘NO’ more often, and not swayed or guided by obligation or what others will think. The realization that I do not have to like everyone and they do not have to like me. It is a time of reflection and an opportunity to reinvent myself for the better.
I lost my parents in the last ten years so death awareness has become highlighted. It has made me realise the importance of how I spend my time and with whom, prioritising my life in a way that is more meaningful.
Everyone usually has a bucket list. What boxes are you yet to tick so far?
Visit every continent, Learn Spanish. Island hop around Greece. Learn a new skill every year. Go on a long cruise with my family. Find a new passion. Master Yoga. Own a home in Spain. Learn to meditate. Become a millionaire. Vacation in the Maldives. Find my soulmate.
They say with age come maturity and some level of boldness. What key things matter most to you now that didn’t hold such importance a few decades back?
Friendship, I realise the importance of having friends who are loyal and care for you. Those who will speak up for me when I am not present and those that tell me the truth about myself even if it is uncomfortable or could hurt.
Health, after losing both parents to cancer and having a scare myself I take greater care of my body and mental health. With covid in our midst, it’s highlighted just how important this is.
Peace, that of the world and of my mind. I have become even more saddened by events here and away and I have had to find ways to not let it consume me. I also now realize the importance of internal peace, so I can balance my emotions and manage relationships.
Loving myself. This is work in progress. Learning that it is not selfish to treat myself, or protect my peace. It is self preservation. I do not always have to feel burdened by other peoples expectations.
You look very good for your age and could easily pass for 40. No doubt, older men as well as younger men are bound to admire you. Have you been approached by younger men and if so, would you ever consider dating someone 5-10 years younger?
Thank you. Yes I have been approached by younger men and on most occasions I am flattered. While age is to be considered, I value a person’s characteristics and values more. If a younger man were to have the traits and goals that are aligned with mine, I would, never say never.
If you were to advice younger women who look up to you. how best will you advice them about being in a good place?
I would say that you need to rely on yourself for your own happiness, having a select group of friends who support you and tell you the honest truth. You need to focus on the ‘effort’ in everything you do rather than the outcome and finally when things are tough, you need to remember that whatever challenges you face ‘it will pass’
What inspires you to carry on; what is your greatest source of strength?
My parents, it is important to me that I continue to carry on their values and make them proud and my greatest source of strength is my daughter. She keeps me grounded, focused, inspired and hopeful and through her, I am learning more about myself and the world today.
What is the biggest challenge you have had to face in the course your professional development for the past twenty-five years, and how well has it contributed to your growth up till this point?
Being a woman in industry here is not always easy as it is a patriarchal society. I have had to learn the best and most efficient way to manoeuvre through fellow colleagues, staff and clients pre-conceived norms and ideas. I would like to think that I have managed to maintain my femininity while being firm, fair, dedicated and a professional.
With so much to do on the professional front, how do you combine that with your role as a mother and even more so, not neglecting your family?
I was blessed with the best family ever and I must say that I often think of women that are not as lucky. From my daughters birth, my parents and siblings were my backbone. From childcare, to school events, holidays, illnesses, there was always a member of my family willing to be there when I could not, offering me that support. I have had to be super organized, strict with time management and be available not only physically but mentally and emotionally in my free time so as to be there for my family.
What achievement has given you the most satisfaction, and why?
Being a mother is my greatest achievement. I had a long and hard journey to motherhood and was blessed with a miracle. I have been forever grateful and motherhood changed my life forever. It pushes your boundaries, enables a love and dedication never experienced, a commitment that never ends, responsibility, patience and I am forever learning and growing.
You have over the years, been an employee at sundry reputable establishments, and recently you are running your own real estate enterprise “Property Trackers”, how would you say working as an employee before now has helped put you in perspective?
I realize the need to feel appreciated, the importance of being carried along in certain decisions, treating someone as I would like to be treated, the sharing of information and being courteous, it costs you nothing.
You have a track record of unquantifiable success at the previous establishments you’ve worked with, should we expect same or less from “Maverick”, your marketing company due to be opened by the end of the year?
You should definitely expect a top rated marketing company. I have the experience and dedication to produce a world class company and I am looking forward to the journey ahead.
You are known to be a lover of art who have taken part in many art auctions run by ArtHouse Nigeria, what would you say is the place of art in Humanity?
Art is a form of expression, it is a way of communicating in all languages through other forms such as dance, poetry, drama, paintings etc. It can be used to send information and messages to the masses for example political issues, social agendas and struggles within society. It can influence, inspire and allow people to see and feel things from a different angle, helping them to cope and overcome.
How do you find it easy to switch to being a reputable business administrator and a legal practitioner, knowing that you hold a Bachelors degree from both field of studies from the University of Essex, United Kingdom?
The skills required for both are interchangeable. Skills such as the ability to prioritise, being professional, courteous, highly organized, efficient and discrete to name a few.
You are a single parent, how has motherhood shaped your life?
I am a single parent however, it takes a village to raise a child and I am grateful and thankful to all my family and friends who have had a hand in helping me raise her and for their continual support. Motherhood has been a roller coaster ride. It is not always smooth and can be exhausting but that is what makes it worthwhile. It is a gift that not all of us are lucky to get. Some days are monotonous but there is something new each day as they learn and grow. It’s about a love that is truly unconditional. It is an all-consuming emotion, where suddenly I could see danger everywhere and anywhere, where the worries of the world (politics, climate change, social unrest etc) are further highlighted and you become more invested in the future. From feelings of overwhelming pride to being worried and that lioness within you comes out to protect her at all costs. Being a mother also affected my relationship with my mother. It made me love her even more than I had done as I understood her even better and appreciated her sacrifices.
What are your views about sexual violence and rape against women especially the girl child?
I have a daughter and I am a woman there is nothing more important. Education is key. From my personal experience as a daughter, we are told to be weary of the opposite sex, schooled in what was believed to be ‘proper’ norms and behaviour, such as what we wore, how we behaved and how we were perceived to be ‘good girls’. The focus was on us (the women) and this notion of blame and shame. I believe our boys need to be educated and the focus shifted on them with the hope of transforming how girls/women are seen and valued as a whole. NO means NO, alcohol or drugs not an excuse, what a woman wears is not an invitation, domestic violence and rape should be discussed in schools and homes.
You are 50 now, are you in a relationship and finally is your door still open to romance and marriage?
I am not in a relationship and yes I am open to romance (I am actually a romantic at heart) and marriage if it is with the right person.
